Welcome

The purpose of this web site is to give you solutions to whatever life situation you have your attention on or whatever you are worried about RIGHT NOW.

I’ll give you simple, powerful steps to resolve problems you may be having with; raising kids and teens, relationship difficulties, lack of personal direction or power, money issues, learning difficulties and more.

I have been counseling, coaching and consulting individuals, kids, couples and businesses for over 26 years. I know what works and what doesn’t work.

If I can’t help you, I can refer you to someone who can.

For a free Personality Test and evaluation, go to the following link: http://www.personalabilities.com/free_oca.php

To order my book, This Lifetime, click the Amazon link to the right.

You can also contact me at: rich@richnisbet.com

Is it all in your Mind?

Illnesses, accidents and foul ups occur. They happen. They are real.

For someone to tell you “Its all in your head” or “You’re not really sick… you just think you’re sick”, is that individual not feeling or experiencing what you’re feeling and experiencing. Obviously, “its all in their head!”

However, in my experiences, I have helped many people find an underlying cause or situation which actually contributes to or had contributed to the illness or tendency to accidents and mistakes.

How come you can have 10 people in a room but only 2 of them catch the virus or germ floating around?

How come one day we are doing fine and the next day we find ourselves in a bad accident or create a bad mistake?

How come we find that there are certain chronic conditions that have been treated and treated and treated and yet continue to hold us down?

Why is it that some physicians can test us and then tell us that there is nothing wrong or they can’t find anything.

Some people feel that all illnesses can be handled spiritually or with mental tricks or through counseling. Some say that it is all physical and that all the spiritual and New Age counseling stuff is nonsense.

Believe it or not, the fact is, that a speedy recovery or a full handling of an illness often requires both a physical and a mental or spiritual type treatment.

You will find that at the source of these illnesses and/or conditions was something in the person’s life that was traumatic, emotionally stressful or some such. Sometimes it is something which happened long ago. Sometimes those same stressful factors are still present today. Sometimes there are people or things in the current environment that are similar to past stress, which then gets “energized” in Present Time and keeps the illness going.

Do not discount the power of the mind or spirit just as you should not discount getting competent medical attention.

Do both!

Responsibility

Responsibility

When my youngest son Mick was 10 years old, he was leading his hockey team in assists. His coach told my wife and I that he needs take more of a leadership role on the team and to talk more to the other players on the ice.

When I told Mick what his coach told us, he said “he didn’t want to”.  I could tell he was uncomfortable being asked to be responsible for more than just his position on the ice.

I then wondered how I would communicate to a 10 year old, the concept of and the need to take full responsibility for something.

Then I thought of the word “Responsibility”. It actually comes from two words; “Response” and “Ability”. Therefore, if we apply the definitions of these two words, we can possibly understand and communicate the concept better.

If you have the ability to do something and you don’t respond to a situation in a manner to which you are able, you are acting irresponsible. If you do respond to a situation based on your abilities, you are being responsible.

So, if Mick has the ability to set plays up and knows where his fellow teammates should be, and then doesn’t help them and ensure they know where to go and what to do, then theoretically, the outcome of the game is very much Mick’s responsibility.

Sounds harsh but that is the way life goes.

So we have two options. Either lower our awareness and ability so that we don’t actually see what we truly see or we can take full responsibility for what we know and respond in the manner in which we are able.

Take a look at your own life and see if there are some areas or situations that you actually could respond to in a better way. If you do, things will go better and you will be more in control of your life.

This Lifetime: Where Is It All Going?

The average life of a human body is 77 years (that’s only 924 months) … do you actually believe that is all there is to YOU?